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You know, sometimes when you hear a Christian (Person A) who is trying to convey a message to another person (Christian or not – Person B) of which, the intention is to help the person to realize his/her weaknesses, mistakes, stupid-ness, dopey-ness, ng leng chai-ness, stubborn-ness,dunggu-ness, or anything negative about the person. This person from church will try his/her best to convey it to Person B in such a way that it doesn’t hurt so bad although it’s true.

Sometimes when I see such a scenario, I ask myself “Why do through all the trouble?! If he/she’s got weaknesses, just tell em in the face so that they stop yapping and get real already!”. But of course, I didn’t say that out loud.

After watching Person A handle the situation (which is to tell the person in a nice manner topped with love) and putting myself in the shoes of Person B, I realize what that did.

Here’s the diff. If a person is being told that he/she s*** (the action that you do with the straw – Dubbed as ‘Straw Action’) have a weakness or something that you did wrong in the blunt and cruel way, the person would probably be defensive, raise the walls and take it personal. Then whatever else that you try to say to him/her is as good as saying it to a wall. Hence, the discussion doesn’t get anywhere. Not only did we not achieve the goal of the discussion,  we also end up with an extra & unnecessary agreement. Then every will go home feeling “ng song” (angry).

On the other hand, the same message was spoken in a loving and gentle manner, Person B will receive the message as a constructive comment and attempt to make amends!

Amazing huh? It only takes love to make a difference between starting an argument and passing a constructive comment. =)

 

p.s. The ‘scraped’ texts are strictly intended to add comedy to the post only.


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View outside the officeSo,  (man…I always start saying this word) what’s happening to me lately? 

I’m not sure when or what was the last update but as of April 09, I was employed by the church (KL Wesley Methodist Church that is…) as a Youth Worker. Yup, I work for God =). Pastor Andrew is my earthly boss. I’m also a part-time student with Seminari Theology Malaysia (STM) pursuing Masters in Christian Studies (MCS).

“So, what do you do?” I get this question quite a lot. Well, I serve in the BB as a Warrant Officer, I help out teaching drums @ Senior Sunday School (SSS) – will probably be teaching lessons as I settle in as well, I oversee a new ministry called C.R.S. (Chill, Reload & Support) Centre or commonly known as The “Drop-In” Centre (provides a place for MBS students to chill out, do hw, have a drink, play board games, chat, etc); and I’m also in the process of starting a youth band that will go out to secondary schools and bless them with worship and also to provide some support to the CF; and I study. Minus the other ministries that I’m involved in, that pretty much sums up my JD (job description). Oh…I’ve also begun co-leading a small group @ Ronald’s place, so I’m a Small Group leader now. But that’s not in my JD tho…=)

If you’d ask me, I’d say my job is pretty much fun if you like to hang out and do the stuff that youths do (go for camps, play music, love to talk to friends, love to meet new friends, yum cha, etc) and be a kid! Ok la…a mature kid… hahahah…=P What more can you ask for when going for camps and playing music becomes part of your job? But, Ok la..to be fair, there are also down sides la..it’s not always a bed of roses. How so? When i need to do my STM assignments mai ng song lor… =( But the courses are quite interesting tho…until you have to do assignments and there is not much time left…Aside from that, it’s all gud =)

That’s almost all about work…what else have I been doing? Erm…writing songs lor…haven’t really had time to finish them yet…but I’ll finish @ least 1 song one fine day…one day… Do I write good songs? That’s for you to tell me when it comes out…one day…hahaha..

 

Got more questions? Wanna know more? Just post me a question here and I’ll tell you guys about it so long as it’s not too private la…ok? =)

 

Blessings.


Hi there!

Yes, I know…it’s been ages since my last post. I think this is the 2nd round which I’m posting such an entry..hehe. What happened?

Well, I think I realize that blogging takes quite an amount of time (especially when you are trying to write in a way that interest people + looking for nice pictures that go with it). So, I decided that since the blog was mostly for those who are overseas to be updated on what’s going on with me (i check the stats of my blog); I thought they can chat with me on MSN or GTalk instead of reading my blog. Hence, forget the blog…

Well, it turns out that I was wrong. Not only do those overseas read it, even those who are local would like to know what’s goin on! Man…i feel so humbled and also thankful for having friends who care.

And that is part of the reason why I’m blogging again. =)

Part of the reason? Does that mean that wasn’t a good enough reason for me to blog again? Well, not to say so but other reasons also contributed to me blogging again. A close friend of mine told me that it’s good to put your thoughts in words so that I can solidify and confirm what I was thinking. Since I like to talk about my happenings, putting it as a blog post seems to be a good alternative when I don’t have anyone to talk to. I cant talk to the wall or my bulldog, can i? IMG_7476

 

I mean, look at the fella’s face la…how to talk? I’ll probably end up mushing da fella’s face like a clay or slapping it la…yes, I know… it’s so cute…=)

 

So, yes! I’m back…and blogging. Hence, the new blog name, tag and the new layout. Hope you’d enjoy reading =).

“eh eh eh…! But what’s going on with you?” I heard you ask…

check the next post la…hahahaha

Blessings.


28 Have you never heard?
      Have you never understood?
   The Lord is the everlasting God,
      the Creator of all the earth.
   He never grows weak or weary.
      No one can measure the depths of his understanding.
 29 He gives power to the weak
      and strength to the powerless.
 30 Even youths will become weak and tired,
      and young men will fall in exhaustion.
 31 But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength.
      They will soar high on wings like eagles.
   They will run and not grow weary.
      They will walk and not faint.

Isaiah 40: 28-31

This portion of the Bible reminded me to always go back to God, trust Him and I will find streangth when I’m feeling dry or tired. And I did!

I hope you’ll find yours too. =)

want more?

Yo! Yes, I have an opening to fill again. Don’t worry, it’s not to fill a position of a baby sitter. This is a real vacancy which I’m helping my friend advertise.

Position : Business Development Coordinator
Company  : Wong and Partners
Advertised on : 28 Jul 2008

For more details, go to this URL:
http://my.jobstreet.com/jobs/2008/7/default/10/676235.htm

 

 

p.s. So, does dat make this JobStreet @ JoN’s Street?

I didn’t realize that I have a rhythm that becomes an indicator of how I am doing. Not until just moments ago. I was in driving home and was wondering why was I so ‘stoned’ tonight. It didn’t feel like the usual person I am. It’s then I think of the things that I’ve been doing at work.

 

Lets take things a little back in time when I just started working in church.

I was happy doing ministry work, keeping up with the Boys – basically being in touch with youths. It was two to three weeks later that I had to skip some of those sessions due to various reasons. Since then, I’ve been feeling a little out of touch and a little lost spiritually (well, maybe it’s also because my devotion was irregular as well la). Attending those meeting with the Boys again, brought me back on track. But the momentum was lost. I have to start over again. Then I was required to do some admin work for the BB. It wasn’t all a bed of roses but neither was it all bad. Nonetheless, it wasn’t my favourite task (you get the picture). I guess it was also then that I’ve started to get bored of the tasks that I need to do. Nothing was playing in my head. It’s just dry. I use to have something playing at all times tho. Use to…

 

Coming back to the present, realizing that today (16 July) is a Wednesday – which means I get to learn my music theory and also practice on drums (which was my main objective working actually) brightened me up. It so happened that John Mayer’s ‘Say What You Need to Say’ played on Mix FM. I then feel my rhythm again. All the swing, funk, R&B, grooves – they all came back and music started playing in my head again.

 

I then realize that this actually happens when I’m at the top of my game in music. When I feel musical (and are able to Olive-Ash-Burl-Emr-Fadeplay musically of course). So, at least now I know that I’m probably not so happy when nothing is playing in my head. =)

 

Of course, all thanks to God for helping me make this discovery. Its just so cool. Thank God for making me such a way. It’s just so cool beans.

Hi all, people have been asking me “Why don’t you update your blog?”. For those of my friends who care are abroad or have not been in touch for some time, this is the only way they get to know what’s goin on with this guy. haha…

Well, I’m sorry, so now here is the post.

Well, from last I posted, I’ve finished my degree in Information Systems Engineering (I need to take a deep breath every time i say that) and managed a 2nd Upper Hons degree. Though results are out and letter of conferent received, it’s not official yet coz convo is only in August. =) But technically, I am a grad la.

 

So, what am I doing now? I’m working in church as the BB Admin Assistant (purposely spelt Assistant in full so that some of you dont go – “BB Admin Ass?” – you know who you are) and I do admin work (duh) for the 1st KL BB such as:

  • updating this information system they have, called BBIS
  • create a new website for them
  • organize prayer meet for the Boys
  • organize tuition for the Boys
  • some work form church office here n there
  • other stuff that the BB Officers Council passes to me.

Well, there’s more in the list but i think that’s enough for you to know. The experience is good. I’m actually in the process of fulfilling my dream. Which is to eventually make positive impacts in people’s lives, hoping that they will see God’s reflection via me; and see them change. (which i think is happening now – Cool huh?)

Well the ultimate plan is to work in church full-time in the music ministry. Which is why I’m also taking music theory lessons which while i work to prepare for audition which will admit me into an institution that will get me either a degree in Music (in UCSI) or a degree in Church Music (in S’pore Bible College). What’s the diff? Well, it’s another long story. I’ll get to that next time. But now, It’s slanting towards a degree in music in UCSI (like a 51% vs. 49% kinda thing)…hahaha.

So, that means, I’ll be working as BB Admin Assistant till end Dec 08 and by God’s grace & plan, I’ll be studying music in either of those places for 3 years and after which, I’ll be back in KL to serve in church.

 

Oh! did I also mention that i finally got my own car? Haha…well, it’s something Mom left behind (reminds me how much she loved me every time i tell this to people…*sigh*).

Nway, back to the car. It’s nothing really grand to shout about but it’s decent enough and gets me from point A to point B. (What? Will i hurry and tell what car it is?…oh…sure sure). It’s a……em…oh! it’s a…..hehehe

it’s a 2001 Special Edition Kembara. *bluek! =P

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I bought it for RM19k, it’s in good condition (the paint is still shiny – kinda good condition).

 

Aside from that, I’m also practicing hard for a youth musical coming in early Sept. It’s called “Life on The Edge”. It’s about the challenges and struggles that youths face today and how this hot (yes, she’s hot!) female main character faces it (not me obviously). Who is this hot main actress? who am I playin?

Come and find out!

When:  6th & 7th Sept 2008

Where: KL Wesley Church

Admission: Free!

And I guarantee you that you wont regret coming coz I’m in it coz it’s a very interesting story with music by Steven Curtis Chapman. If you think High School Musical was good, wait till you watch this! Bring your friends, Christian or non-Christian, ur parents, grandparents, auntie, uncle, cousins, cousin’s cousin, brother’s friend’s cousin sister, auntie’s cousin’s son’s brother’s kid  <*breathe in*…*breathe out*>…..you get the point.

And this is also the reason why I’ve been so….busy and hot not having able to find time to post stuff like this up lor.

So? Did I answer the question? =P

 

God Bless =)

Most of us have heard the phase “Walk By Faith. Not By Sight”. But most of us may not realize the true meaning of it. Myself included.

 

I only got a better understanding of it today (like…just now) =)

 

I got a call from Shaan, one of my friends from church. She asked if I could do sound tonight (was a practice for Sunday Worship service) coz the roster for PA got mixed up and other PA guys were not in town.

 

So I told her “er..but I’m havin my (final year, final semester) exam tomorrow.”

The only options were me and another guy (who will be at least 30 mins to 1hr late if he’s coming 4 practice. And practice cant start without a PA guy).

 

After a few calls, I agreed to do it. Though she told me that there are 6 songs to practice (which usually take more than 2hrs). And there goes my whole night worth of study time.

After all the calls, suddenly I remembered what God thought me about 4 – 5 months ago when I wasn’t sure if I should go into full-time ministry.

He said “… See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matt 6:28-34)

And he told me this TWICE!

 

If He said that He will see me through, He will.

Coming to think of it, what was my exam for? what was my degree for? It’s to develop my current personality and skills (and it still does). For others, its a passport to get a rewarding job.

But God already gave me a job. My job is to serve and glorify His name through all the musical talents He had given me. Being able to graduate from my current degree will allow me to pursue my next degree in music (this is to further hone my musical skills to serve better).

So, if He allowed such a situation (like today) to happen, and He says “I need you in church tonight.” Why should I doubt and worry bout my exam tomorrow? Matt 6: 33 says “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. “

 

It’s not that I’m not prepared for my exam at all, it’s just that being a kiasu student I would want to have as much time as possible to study. And I think that applies to most students.

 

I had the chance to say “Sorry, I can’t. I have a VERY IMPORTANT exam tomorrow”. But I also have the option to say “Yes, I’ll do it”.

It was a test.

 

I’m not very sure what’s gonna happen tomorrow. But I know God has my back. I guess that’s what it means to walk by faith, and not by sight. We won’t be sure what’s gonna happen coz when we let God handle everything, we don’t have control over it. And that’s what makes us feel unsafe. Insecure. Coz we don’t have control over things.

But God only wants the best for us. And everything He does is for our very best.

I’m learning to trust God more and more (and I’m still learning). With my little experience so far, I can tell you that it’s just amazing looking at what God does in my life. And I hope that you too will have the same experience one day.

 

God Bless. =)

 

p.s. gadda get back to studies now. =)

Do you know the legend of the Cherokee Indian youth’s rite of Passage?

His father takes him into the forest, blindfolds him and leaves him alone.
He is required to sit on a stump the whole night and not remove the
blindfold until the rays of the morning sun shine through it. He cannot cry
out for help to anyone. Once he survives the night, he is a MAN.
He cannot tell the other boys of this experience, because each lad must
come into manhood on his own. The boy is naturally terrified. He can hear
all kinds of noises. Wild beasts must surely be all around him. Maybe even
some human might do him harm. The wind blew the grass and earth, and shook
his stump, but he sat stoically, never removing the blindfold. It would be
the only way he could become a man!
Finally, after a horrific night the sun appeared and he removed his
blindfold. It was then that he discovered his father sitting on the stump
next to him. He had been at watch the entire night, protecting his son from
harm. We, too, are never alone. Even when we don’t know it, God is watching
over us, sitting on the stump beside us. When trouble comes, all we have to
do is reach out to Him. If you liked this story, pass it on. If not, you
took off your blindfold before dawn.
Moral of the story
Just because you cannot see God, doesn’t mean he is not there. We need to
walk by faith, not by sight.

 

 

Adapted from an email i received recently.

Some of you might have heard stories like this a million times. And most of them will tell you that it happened to a friend or a relative.

 

What I’m about to tell you is not one that happened to a friend, neither a relative. It happened to me, just today.

 

It was early in the morning at about 7.15am or so. As per my usual routine, I was aboard a Rapid KL bus heading towards KL Sentral for an interchange to the LRT, to get to campus in PJ for an 8.00am class. The bus was almost packed with people heading for work and school. Just as the bus enters Brickfields area, suddenly a man with brown complexion started pulling my left arm sleeve. I was slightly shocked coz a stranger just pulled my sleeve for no reason (i thought for a split second that he had mental conditions). So i quickly brushed his hand off. He then pointed at a splat of flam on my left shoulder (eek!). So, i said thank you and tried to reach for tissue in my bag to clean it off. By now, i have already turned my body in a way that my right shoulder faces the man (coz stranger ma)… While i was getting my tissue, another man now on my left shoulder also started tagging my left sleeve, pointing at the same spot. And i replied with the same “ah…ok..ok..thank you”. Soon after which, they dropped off opposite the Brickfields Police Station. A malay man who stood behind the 1st man told me that the 1st man placed his had in the front section of my sling bag just now. So, i quickly checked for any missing items and found nothing missing in my bag. Then i checked my back pocket for my wallet (its there), front left pocket for my keys (its also there) and front right pocket…to find that my almost 2 months old phone is gone.

 

So, please learn from my lesson as much as i did from it:

When you do encounter such situations, do not ever be distracted. The first thing that should come to your mind what such thing happens is your belongings. The flam (in my case) was meant as a distraction. I was wearing a pair of jeans mind you. And my phone was in the front right pocket.

 

Another lesson that i’ve learnt is to not have any dangly things on your phone. Even if you do have, do not leave it hanging outside your pocket or where ever you keep it. My phone had a bag for a case. And that had a strap that hangs out of my pocket. That probably eased them in having my phone.

 

Nonetheless, I’m thankful coz i didn’t get hurt or have any important documents (IC, Driving License, Bankcard, etc) stolen in the process.

 

So, regardless you are a guy or gal, its better to be warned and take precaution than to be sorry later. Link or send this to everyone that you care about. So that they too can be warned and such things can be avoided.